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Patterns were solutions first
Most of what you want to change once helped you. That is why it is durable, and why shaming it rarely works. Understanding the original job of a pattern makes it easier to offer the pattern something better.
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Naming creates room
Putting language on an internal experience can create a little distance from it. That distance may make it easier to notice what is happening before choosing what comes next.
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Motivation is usually mixed
Wanting to grow and wanting to stay safe can exist at the same time. Ambivalence is normal information, not a character flaw.
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