Virgine De Paepe
Originally from Belgium, I have been living in the Bay Area for over twenty years. My love of Psychology grew out of a respect for the complexity and depth of human relationships, as well as, a desire for personal healing. My cross cultural background offers a unique approach.
The relationship between therapist and client has been shown to be one of the most important elements of successful outcome in therapy. I have a warm, active and authentic style. I am not the stereo typical therapist who sits back and nods. I'm engaged and curious about you and your process, and I'm constantly learning about new approaches to healing and therapy. My ultimate goal is to inspire, guide and empower you to live more JOYFUL, FREE and FULFILLED lives.
I love what I do
I love helping individuals, and couples move through crisis and create deeply fullfilling lives with nourishing relationships. From my own experience, I know how working through pain and suffering can ultimately lead to greater compassion, joy and a deeper connection with others. I feel honored of being entrusted with the details of people's intimate lives, and I am fortunate to be able to help others through this difficult journey. I strive to continually improve my skills as a clinician and I am dedicated to using my compassion, wisdom, intuition and laughter to help my clients.
In previous phases of my life
I have been a social worker in Belgium, courageous traveler, a super nanny, household manager, executive assistant for the rich and famous, activity coordinator for the elderly to name a few.
California Institute of Integral Studies, 2009. Masters of Arts in Integral Counselling Psychology.
Alive & Well, 2000. Certified Massage Therapist specializing in prenatal massage.
KVMW University, Belgium 1993. Maatschappelijke Assistent (Social Work Degree)
2015 The Lotus Collaborative, facilitator of a Monte Nido Dine Support group for people in recovery from Eating Disorders.
2008-2014 New Perspectives Center for Counselling, Marriage and Family Therapist Internship with a focus on Dialetical Behavior Therapy(DBT), Hakomi, Somatic Psychotherapy, EMDR, Gestalt, The Gottman Couples Method and Dr. Sue Johnson
Emotional Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) & Sand Play Therapy, San Francisco, CA.
2012 Support for Families, Facilitator for preemie parent support group. San Francisco, CA.
2009-2010 California Institute of Integral Studies, Teaching Assistant for the following graduate courses: Couples
Counselling(focusing on Gottman Method, Dr. Sue Johnson Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Dan While Collaborative
Couples Therapy, Celeste & Danielle Sex and Intimacy), Therapuetic Communication, The Clinical Relationship. San Francisco,
2003 Dhamma Dena Vipassana Buddhist center with Ruth Denison, Facilitator of mindful eating program and retreat. Joshua
1998-2003 Sterling Institute, ongoing weekly meetings and managing women's group in empowering women to have succesful
relationships in their lives.
1998-2003 Spirit Rock Family Program, Volunteer Counselor and kitchen aid. Woodacre, CA.
1998-2003 Dhamma Dena Vipassana Buddhist center with Ruth Denison, Silent Meditation retreats.
WORKSHOPS & TRAININGS
2017-Present NICABM's Next Level Practitioner Program
2017 Rick Hanson The Foundations of Well Being "Growing the good in your brain and your life" (Year Long Training/Online)
2015-Present The Great Parenting Show with Jacqueline Greene (Video & Audio of Parenting Education)
2015 Esther Perell, on line workshops; Love, Sex and Power and Reclaiming Curiosity, Connection and Passion
2015 PACT Institute (A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) "Level 1 training for professionals", Berkeley, CA
2015 AEDP (Accelerated Experiental Dynamic Psychotherapy), "Immersion course" SF, CA
2015 Transforming Trauma with EMDR with Laurell Parnell, Ph.D., level 3, weeklong training at Esalen, Big Sur, Ca
2015 Spirit Rock, David Richo, "When love meets fear: Becoming defense-less and resourse-full", 1 Day Workshop, Woodacre, CA
2015 The Lotus Collaborative, Linda Shanti McCabe Ph.D., "Soul Collage" expressive arts workshop, San Francisco, CA
2014 The Couples Institute, "Developmental Model in working with couples", Level 1, year long training, Menlo Park, CA
2014 Amen Clinic, "The Amen Method Professional Training for Brain Imaging, Therapy and Treatments", Brisbane, CA
2013 PACT, "Stanley Tatkin & Tracey Tatkin: Wired for Love, An Insider's Guide to your Relationship", weekend workshop, Esalen
Institute, Big Sur, CA
2013 Awakening Joy/James Baraz, 6 month experiential course to develop our natural capacity for well being, Berkeley, CA.
2013 Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference, Milton H Erickson Foundation, week long mini workshops with the legends of
psychotherapy, including Dan Siegel, Salvador Minuchin, Donald Meichenbaum, David Burns, Marsha Linehan, David Beck,
Harville Hendrix, Daniel Amen, Sue Johnson etc. Anaheim, CA.
2013 Ongoing Consultation Group with Victor Yalom, Mill Valley, CA
2012 Transforming Trauma with EMDR with Laurel Parnell Ph.D., Level 1 & Level 2, Alliant University, San Francisco, CA
2010 The Hakomi Method: Comprehensive Skills Training. Hakomi Institute of San Francisco, CA.
2010 Mindfullness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), 8 week program, UCSF, San Francisco, CA.
2010 Rob Fischer MFT & Dr. Sue Johnson Ph.D., Hakomi Mindfullness Based Experiential Psychotherapy, daylong workshop,
San Anselmo, CA.
2010-2014 Ongoing supervision with Katie Cofer, LMFT.
2010-Present Ongoing EMDR consultation with Katie Cofer, LMFT.
2009-2013 Ongoing Consultation Group in Hakomi Technique with Scott Eaton, Emeryville, CA.
2004-2009 Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Non Violent Communication (NVC) trainings, San Francisco/Bay Area, CA.
2002-2004 Landmark Forum, Landmark's four basic programs provide a direct access and real power in shifting the nature of what is
possible in people's lives, families, workplaces, and their communities. While each program is complete in itself, these
programs are designed so that each one builds on and enriches the others:
The Landmark Forum in Action
The Advanced Course
The Self Expression and Leadership Program
1994-2003 Spirit Rock with Jack Kornfield Ph.D. and others, ongoing weekly meditation class. Woodacre, CA.